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I used to buy things that I *thought* I liked but wasn’t in love with, and inevitably that item would sit in my closet unused until it was too old to take back. Then I learned to take stuff back earlier. And I found that I spent a lot of time taking stuff back.
One day somebody told me that he doesn’t ever buy something if he doesn’t love it the moment he lays eyes on it. So that is my new policy. Finding something that you absolutely love is much harder than finding something that you think you like, but it means you don’t go through buyer’s remorse or second-guess your decision. ["The Paradox of Choice" talks about buyer's remorse and analysis paralysis.]
Anyway, there’s an analogy here between buying and dating. Especially because you only get to “purchase” one item — you only get to marry one person. So the flip side of this is that this can all lead to a fear of marriage and waiting forever to find the right person. BUT I don’t like the alternative, I never want to second-guess my decision after the “purchase”, or find the one I *do* love right after I purchase the one I kind-of liked. What’s the right answer? (No idea.)
Love at first sight with clothes? Sometimes I have to get to know them better.;)
“What is the ‘right’ answer?” “Who could be the ‘right’ person”? I don’t know for you, but for me, I hope that once a man “purchased” me by marriage, so to speak, we look forward to the great potential of what our lives will be as we synergize our energy and talents to create something better than we could individually, 1+1=a bagilillion in my mind in this case. In this paradigm, it prompts courage to move forward and looking back to anyone else would be apples to oranges (and a terrible thought). The Spirit helps in discerning compatibility and potential.
Also, fear is the opposite of faith. A paradigm of faith is a much richer and fulfilling framework to live in.


























[...] I also monthly donate to a great charity, which I chose as an effort to support humanitarian work outside of the Church and to persuade my heart to be less attached to stuff. It’s a small effort to live simply, so that others may simply live. I wrote about this idea and my effort in 2010 to be more mindful of my purchasing behavior and my attachment to stuff in the post “Want, Want, Want.” [...]
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