Happy Valentine’s Day Eve!

This week in my Federalist Papers class at Georgetown University we read James Madison’s iconic first published Federalist essay, number 10.  I read this in college, but I didn’t have the reading skills to appreciate the potency of the message or the poetry of the composition. This time it was riveting.

I unabashedly crush on influential historical figures, especially when I learn more of their humanity. Sanitized iconic statesman towering on the pedestal of what seems like the inevitable march of history does very little for me. However, a bright person who utilizes well their talents and resources, synergizes the ideas of their time to generate an inspiring vision for a better future and has the courage and leadership skills to redirect the yet-to-be-made course of history, affecting millions, even billions of lives? Now that’s hot.

When I was more private about my historical crushing, a friend in college photo-shopped this pic of me with George Washington. When I saw it, I almost suffocated from lack of air because of my insurgent laughter.

Speaking of lack of air, this line in Madison’s paper sparked my mind to the topic of love (and just maybe my crushing on James Madison provided some sort of kindling):

Liberty is to faction what air is to fire, an aliment without which it instantly expires. But it could not be a less folly to abolish liberty, which is essential to political life, because it nourishes faction than it would be to wish the annihilation of air, which is essential to animal life, because it imparts to fire its destructive agency.”

I thought of love when I read it. Why?  Let’s read it with a few alterations.  I’m sure Madison won’t mind.

“Liberty is to [love] what air is to fire, an aliment without which it instantly expires. But it could not be a less folly to abolish liberty, which is essential to [romance and family] life, because [there's the chance for rejection and heartbreak] than it would be to wish the annihilation of air, which is essential to animal life, because it imparts to fire its destructive agency.”

It is only in the potential chance of rejection that meaningful love can be created. The ability to choose between extending yourself emotionally to someone or withdrawing completely is the air that enables the fire of the human hope to be loved. The choice to invest when you could be indifferent or worse shows the chosen they are special to you. Everyone wants to be loved.  If they say they don’t, it’s only because they’ve lost hope for it or they don’t believe it’s possible.

I came to this opinion by my study of Latter-day Saint scripture. (Well, not the last part, that’s purely my own generalization based on anecdotal experience and lots of chic-flick watching.)  Latter-day Saints (Mormons) believe that Adam’s Fall ushered into the world the existence of opposites and therefore the possibility for human joy. If they stayed in the Garden of Eden, they would have “remained in a state of innocence, having no joy, for they knew no misery; doing no good for they they knew no sin” (2 Nephi 2:22-23). Before entering into this state of existence, Adam and Eve were damned in their ability to love because they lived in a neutral world.  Without the chance for pain, they could not know love.  Their choice to leave the garden enabled them to have children  (v. 23) and it created an environment where love could be created and expanded.  It was a Fall downward, but also forward.

God gives us liberty, so we can choose Him, even though He risks great rejection. It is in this free state we can actually develop love for Him. Many of His children reject Him. Prior to the earth’s flood and Noah building the ark, Enoch saw God weeping. Amazed that the God of Heaven would cry, Enoch acknowledged His creative abilities and divine attributes and asked, “How is it that thou canst weep?” (Moses 7:30-31).  The Lord’s reply cuts me, “And unto thy brethren have I said, and also given commandment, that they should love one another, and that they should choose me, their Father; but behold, they are without affection, and they hate their own blood” (Moses 7:33).

We are completely free to reject God. God has great joy when He risks rejection with us and we choose to love Him. But, without the risk and our freedom to reject, no love can be created and expanded.  Thanks to Adam and Eve’s choice to leave the Garden of Eden, we live in an existence where we can know how to love God.

Similarly, in our romantic and family relationships when we, like God, risk rejection we are creating a space within ourselves where love can be created and expanded.  Without that vulnerability and potential for heartbreak, we can never know the joy of love in any way that God knows.  I personally believe that the deeper the pain an individual has experienced in life, the deeper their potential to cross the other end of the spectrum and love. “Why me?” someone could ask God or themselves. Perhaps He is allowing experience to enable a deeper access to love. What a tremendous gift.  God really does know what He’s doing.

And, it’s okay to cry when you’re rejected.  God does.  But it’s not okay to allow fear to stop you from taking risks. God doesn’t do that.  That just handicaps your potential to enjoy love more like He does.

Happy Valentines Day, whether this one involves pain or love.


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5 comments so far

Phillip
 1 

Absolutely absurd.

February 21st, 2011 at 2:42 PM
MollyMormon
 2 

Which part do you consider absurd? The romantizing two leading American Founders, the manipulation of a classic Federalist paper to completely reinvent its intended purpose or the idea that it is only when we are completely free to love that it can be created and expand?

February 21st, 2011 at 4:16 PM
Olivia
 3 

So God’s purpose for humans (Gen. 1:28) was inherently incomplete and imperfect and required human rebellion and subsequent suffering to have success? We need the bad to appreciate the good? Do you show your young child horror movies so he can better enjoy the virtue of Dora the Explorer? What dangerously specious reasoning.

God provided everything humans needed to enjoy life and the Earth. Humans thought they could do better. God allowed them to try. Failed. The ransom arrangement provided an opportunity for reconciliation to God, this time with the issue of rightful sovereignty completely laid to rest. It’s a simple concept, and instead of relying on portents and prophecies pulled out of a hat, it’s one that is explained clearly in scripture that is ACTUALLY divinely inspired. (James 1:13; Romans 5:12, 6:23; REV. 22:18,19)

Attributing evil to God and describing the Edenic rebellion as a step forward for mankind is a tremendous perversion (Is. 5:20), and betrays the doctrine’s demonic provenance.

February 22nd, 2011 at 1:33 AM
Phillip
 4 

Do you mean “romanticizing”?

February 22nd, 2011 at 2:11 AM
MollyMormon
 5 

Phillip,
Thank you for catching my spelling error. I did mean “romanticizing.”

Olivia,
Thank you for dropping in and providing us the Protestant view of the Fall that contrasts with the Latter-day Saint view. It enriches the community possible on this site, so I appreciate you taking the time to type up a comment.

Your interpretation of my description is in need of some refining, mainly these two points, “So God’s purpose for humans (Gen. 1:28) was inherently incomplete and imperfect and required human rebellion and subsequent suffering to have success?”… “Attributing evil to God…”

Perhaps you will find C.S. Lewis’ description a bit more palatable. In his chapter, “The Fall of Man,” in his book The Problem of Pain, Mr. Lewis attempts to deal with the source of evil. On page 69, he takes a position that explains in part the Latter-day Saint view of the Fall in terms of the source of evil, “Christianity asserts that God is good; that He made all things good and for the sake of their goodness; that one of the good things He made, namely, the free will of rational creatures, by its very nature included the possibility of evil, and that creatures, availing themselves of this possibility, have become evil.”

My description did not include that “God’s purpose for humans was inherently incomplete and imperfect.” and it was not “Attributing evil to God.” As Mr. Lewis describes, because God is the source of all goodness, evil had to come from a different place. He created the perfect conditions to allow man to exercise their free will and allowed evil to come into the world. He allowed the serpent who was Lucifer, into the garden and allowed Adam and Eve the choice. As shown in the reference you provided us Romans 5:12, it was man (meaning Adam) that ushered sin into the world. It was not God. The “issue of rightful sovereignty” was never in question. It always belonged with God.

And within this description, Dora the Explorer could not exist in a world without the possibility to create a horror movie. That is not to say that a child has to watch them both. Latter-day Saints believe that in the millennium, the thousand years when Christ will reign personally on the earth, that peace is achieved because the people living willing choose to love Christ and live His commandments and this diminishes Satan’s influence so much that he becomes bound. It is an incorrect interpretation of my description to conclude that someone has to experience sin to know the good as if one has to do drugs and steal to understand its inverse. These kinds of spiritual offenses dig a hole for a person to struggle to exit before they can continue on the path to knowing Christ. What I had in mind by someone’s ability to love more deeply when they have known pain was more along the lines of bereavement or loneliness as a result of their life circumstance. Not so much what they inflicted on themselves by “watching horror movies” or by purposefully seeking after evil.

My purpose in composing such posts and responding is to share how a Latter-day Saint views the world. It is not unexpected that Protestants take issue with Latter-day Saint truth claims, especially that the heavens are not closed to modern revelation and they do not limit scriptures to the Bible only. I’m glad that you’re willing to share your view and show the contrast.

February 22nd, 2011 at 9:24 PM

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