Committed Love Is Not Inevitable...

Jul 24, 2013 by

Hey there! I’m not really back to blogging, but the last month or so I’ve had two posts swimming in my head. I have almost a day on a plane and bus, so I have a little time. One post would include reflections of my most recent stint as Relief Society president in my singles ward. I was recently “released” from the position as we call it.  In this same post I want to write about an evening I attended addressing surveys of Church members experiencing faith crisis. The New York Times just published a piece on the man who prompted the survey and who I heard speak. See that article at “Some Members Search the Web and Find Doubt.” I appreciated journalist McKay Coppins’  response “Why the Internet Hasn’t Shattered My Mormon Faith.”  I’d like...

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Gratitude and a Dating Tip

Feb 10, 2012 by

My pregnant friend and I were recently standing at an event that took over an hour. While our ride was fellowshipping with some friends, she finally concluded that she was tired. She’d met her threshold for standing as a pregnant woman and wanted to wait for our friend in the car. She’s a kind and strong sort of woman. She wasn’t put out about the delay. She was just expressing her needs. I walked to the car with her. I wasn’t tired, I just preferred her company to anyone else around. As we were walking she said she didn’t want to ever complain about her pregnancy. She and her husband have been wanting a baby for over six years and it was only just now they were expecting. She said she wasn’t ever jealous...

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Can Men and Women Be Just Friends?...

Jan 14, 2012 by

I was sneaking out of the party when he caught me. I got up at 5:00 am, so I was spent and hoping to slip out without being caught by another conversation. He hugged me hello and goodbye at the same time. It felt really good because it was in a way to show me he cared about me without using words. We grew up together, so he knows me well. He knows the ways that I’ve tremendously changed with also staying relatively the same. Men and women can be just friends. It depends on each of their mindsets, though. He and I dated in college and we’ve both concluded a romantic relationship isn’t going to work with us.  As we’ve moved onto a new life phase we’ve been sure to nurture our friendship...

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Upgrade Proposal for Facebook’s Relationship Status Update Options...

Jan 4, 2012 by

Recent relationship status updates on Facebook have me wondering. Does this happen to other women? Maybe this is just a Mormon dating pool thing.  A guy asks me out and not much later I find out he gets engaged—like days later. Happened in college. More than once. And after college. Okay only once. Once upon a time, my sister-in-law told me that two of her siblings went on dates with other people right before getting engaged “just to be sure.” I request that people wear signs. A sign would have really been helpful to the guy in this clip:     Oh wait, we do have signs, it’s called relationship status on Facebook. It should be more specific, though. Dear Mark Zuckerberg, I propose the following upgraded Facebook relationship status options: Single, but my...

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Mormon Temple Wedding: A Ceremony Centered in Christ...

May 11, 2011 by

“Who Shall Ascend into the Hill of the Lord?” Open Access with Preparation Just this last week a friend of mine told me about her friend’s friend’s description of their exclusion from a Latter-day Saint Temple wedding ceremony. (How’s that for degrees of separation?) This friend of a friend of a friend said he had to wait outside the Temple because he was “unclean.” It was a joke at which both my friend and I laughed because that’s not  how Latter-day Saints view it. If I had to choose one word describing those waiting outside the Temple during a wedding ceremony, it wouldn’t be “unclean,” it would be “uncovenanted.” Latter-day Saints believe that in every “dispensation” in which God has dispensed the gospel of Jesus Christ, He has made a covenant with His people...

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