Committed Love Is Not Inevitable...

Jul 24, 2013 by

Hey there! I’m not really back to blogging, but the last month or so I’ve had two posts swimming in my head. I have almost a day on a plane and bus, so I have a little time. One post would include reflections of my most recent stint as Relief Society president in my singles ward. I was recently “released” from the position as we call it.  In this same post I want to write about an evening I attended addressing surveys of Church members experiencing faith crisis. The New York Times just published a piece on the man who prompted the survey and who I heard speak. See that article at “Some Members Search the Web and Find Doubt.” I appreciated journalist McKay Coppins’  response “Why the Internet Hasn’t Shattered My Mormon Faith.”  I’d like...

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Upgrade Proposal for Facebook’s Relationship Status Update Options...

Jan 4, 2012 by

Recent relationship status updates on Facebook have me wondering. Does this happen to other women? Maybe this is just a Mormon dating pool thing.  A guy asks me out and not much later I find out he gets engaged—like days later. Happened in college. More than once. And after college. Okay only once. Once upon a time, my sister-in-law told me that two of her siblings went on dates with other people right before getting engaged “just to be sure.” I request that people wear signs. A sign would have really been helpful to the guy in this clip:     Oh wait, we do have signs, it’s called relationship status on Facebook. It should be more specific, though. Dear Mark Zuckerberg, I propose the following upgraded Facebook relationship status options: Single, but my...

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Mormon Parties: Halloween on Celebrity Island...

Oct 30, 2011 by

A friend of mine once asked me what Mormon parties are like because there’s not any alcohol or drug use and there’s no breaking the law of chastity. I teased him saying we have a good time and we remember it.:) This weekend some friends of mine turned their house into “Celebrity Island.” They invited people to come dressed as a dead celebrity, as any celebrity, as anything they wanted or just as themselves. I was Amy Winehouse for Halloween, which may or may not have been distasteful because she so recently passed into the spirit world (see this post for an explanation about Mormon belief in the afterlife). Tragically, she died at 27 yrs old just this last July. Papers recently reported the cause of death was accidental alcohol poisoning. Her blood alcohol...

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Mormon Temple Wedding: A Ceremony Centered in Christ...

May 11, 2011 by

“Who Shall Ascend into the Hill of the Lord?” Open Access with Preparation Just this last week a friend of mine told me about her friend’s friend’s description of their exclusion from a Latter-day Saint Temple wedding ceremony. (How’s that for degrees of separation?) This friend of a friend of a friend said he had to wait outside the Temple because he was “unclean.” It was a joke at which both my friend and I laughed because that’s not  how Latter-day Saints view it. If I had to choose one word describing those waiting outside the Temple during a wedding ceremony, it wouldn’t be “unclean,” it would be “uncovenanted.” Latter-day Saints believe that in every “dispensation” in which God has dispensed the gospel of Jesus Christ, He has made a covenant with His people...

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Can Women ask out Men and it work out?...

Mar 6, 2011 by

This is the 21st century. Women can be CEOs and can even run for president. I’m wondering if women can ask out men and it work out.  By work out, I mean that this initiative creates a healthy and mutually beneficial relationship with the potential for marriage. And I don’t see the cougar thing as fitting those parameters; I don’t mean a BYU cougar either. As I shared in my previously posted tome  My Current Flux of My Fluctuating View of Dating, the purpose of dating for a Latter-day Saint (Mormon) is to lead to marriage and create a strong family life.  Also, there are no ‘soul mates.’ Partner selection is a matter of free will. Mormon Women Expect the Man to be the Man I’m not afraid of extending invitations.  I’d invite someone...

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